Friday, September 26

This One is Just Right

The point is relationships all have the potential to be messy. You might end up sitting in a few uncomfortable chairs, eating some intemperate porridge and perhaps even be scared away by a whole family of bears, but you've gotta put yourself out there. If Goldilocks never walks in the door, there's no story -- just an empty house.

I always feel like I'm in a middle school girls locker room when people start asking these questions. "Well how do I know if So-and-So likes me?... Hey hypothetically, if I told you that I thought you were neat would you think I was neat too?" Don't get me wrong, it's kind of adorable. I just get a real fast trip down memory lane.

Why are we so scared to tell someone that we admire them? I mean, really, what's the worst thing that could happen? It's not like your telling them that they're dying. You're telling them that they've got good qualities, that they're attractive in one sense of the word or another. It's a nice thing to hear. So why should we be so insecure about it? And what's so embarrassing about thinking these things? Everybody likes somebody -- or at least something about somebody. It's just the way we're wired.

And chances are they think many of the same things about you. And if they don't, then oh well you can move on with your day. It's just not worth it to let those things torture you.

The worst thing that can happen is that they won't reciprocate your feelings. And nobody ever died from somebody not liking them back... at least not directly.